9 things to teach your children about failure

Things to teach your children about failure

What have you been told about failure? Have you been told that being a failure is a life sentence?
Perhaps you have been advised to disassociate yourself from failures.

I want to tell you that there is no such concept as failure and nobody is a failure.

Failing is a learning process and should be celebrated as much as success. It often becomes a wonder how often people celebrate success without acknowledging the series of failures they had to undergo before achieving success

One can only become a failure when one abandons his or her goals due to some temporary glitch which you are bound to experience as long as your goals are that much important to you.

When you face this temporary glitch, it now boils down to how important your goals are to you; if they are that much important to you, you will improvise and find a way to achieve it, if it isn’t that important, you can as well abandon them and quit.

This is life for you, no goals worth achieving is handed in a platter, you have to fight for it, you have to fight for what you want else you will have nothing.

We experience these as part of life as adults, but what happens when children are faced with certain situations which they may term as failure.

Here are things to teach your children about failure

1. IMPROVEMENT

Teach your children that failure calls for a room for improvement and not a life sentence. Teach them that nomatter what they face in life, they should know that there is always room for improvement.

When they are not getting what they want, may be in school or in any area of their life, they feel they are not measuring up, your role as a parent is not to condemn them, but to encourage their little efforts.

Encourage them that it’s okay to struggle at certain things and that constant practice is the only way to get good at it.

2. PROBLEM SOLVING

You might be surprised to learn that most of the greatest inventors and inventions of all time where as a result of constant trials and errors.

The errors did not deter these inventors from trying for one more time, most often one more time was all that was needed for a breakthrough to just happen.

In the course of trials and errors are useful and firsthand experiences which are endermic in failures.

Teach your children that failing naturally activates the problem solving faculty to help us tackle the issue at hand.

3. LEARNING

Have you heard that experience is the best teacher, well so is failure.

The experiences garnered with failure has proven to be more useful than the ones garnered with success. Infact it is these failing experiences that spur us to success.

So that while people may be thinking that you are failing or not measuring up, you were actually on a self discovery, a learning process that are invaluable to your success.

4. CHARACTER

Teach them that Failure helps them to build character and discipline.

It is when you fail and rise up, them fail again, then rise up, then continue failing as long as it takes, this is whenq something positive happens.

That’s when your true character is forged. The discipline formed at this time can never be forgotten.

Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old, he will never depart from it.

That way is through the path of failure, it is through the path of struggle. Teach them that struggle is normal, that every human goes through some form of struggle.

5. COURAGE

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It takes courage to do something, to work on yourself, to learn a new skill, to work on your relationships, to build a family.

Whatever it is that you are trying out whether you are good at it or your are bad, it takes courage to put a step forward.

Many people prefer to stay at their comfort zone and that’s okay.

I want you to bask in the fact that you stepped out and that takes courage, so it doesn’t matter if you are still in the learning process, you are courageous.

Teach your children and let them Understand that failing is courageous. Encourage them to give in more efforts, to not let their failings discourage them.

Tell them how proud you are of them for even trying it out, this will really boost their spirit.

6. THINKING

Failure also helps them to develope their thinking faculty i.e. their mindset.

You know when we are faced with problems, we are bound to two options, you either abandon your goals and flee or you find another way to accomplish them

That’s where failure tests your mindset.  Because success is not for the faint hearted, you have to be emotionally grounded for you to achieve success.

The work of failure is to test whether you truly want what you said you want, when you want it so badly, you wouldn’t be swayed by some emotions when things get rough.

Teach them to be open minded about failure so they can learn the lession which they aught to learn from it.

7. PERSEVERANCE

Failure also teaches perseverance and patience which is a fingerlicking ingredient for success.

There is nothing worth achieving that doesn’t take time.

Teach them that they should as a matter of fact avoid quick success.

Failure teaches you to enjoy the process of your work, when you are enjoying the process, it becomes a part of you and you can never give up.

Quick success makes you to be entitled.

8. EXPERIENCE

We all know that experience is the best teacher and it is only failure that can give you that authentic experience you need to develope yourself.

Teach them to soak in every aspect of their experience with failure.

It is in the process of soaking in these experiences that they will learn where they made some errors, why they made the errors and ultimately how to correct these errors.

You can guide them to point out these errors by themselves, that is the fastest way to teach them.

9. MISTAKE

Teach them that failure is just a mistake and that everyone makes a mistake.

If they are learning a new skill, teach them that it’s okay to make a mistake, infact that they are allowed to make as much mistakes as possible.

You see when we keep an open mindset about the so called negatives situations in our lives, failure inclusive, we begin to remove the negativity attached to it in order to embrace the positive it will bring along.

Teach them that in as much as they may have made a mistake, they themselves are not mistakes, in as much as they failed at something, they themselves are not failures.

How we speak to our children and the kind of words that we feed them will have a corresponding effect on their fragile spirit.

You as a parent need to feed your children with positive thoughts and words, don’t tear them down with your words.

You need to stoop low for you to understand their level of communication, you have to make sure that you understand how they feel and they might just open up to you.

One way to understand how they feel is to validate their feelings, tell them that it’s okay to feel whatever it is that they are feeling, from there you can work your way towards helping them feel better.